Ministering to the Men in Our Churches

Part 1

Discipleship - Vision: Where there is no vision, the people perish: (Proverbs 29:18, KJV)

This is a familiar passage that warns of the need to live or minister under a clearly defined direction or guideline. A vision or view of the future is essential to pulling a team together and advancing in a God-given direction.

Disciplemaking Strategy: Defining a strategy for ministry to men is fruitless unless there is a defined, understood and agreed upon view of where the ministry is going. For example: “Men making disciples who make disciples who make disciples … “ (2 Timothy 2:2). Before there can be a strategy there needs to be a vision.

What does the future look like? What do you want to see in five, ten or fifteen years? Where is the Lord leading you? To whom is He asking you to minister?

Part 2

Discipleship - Men Who Need Christ: “What man of you, having a hundred sheep, if he loses one of them, does not leave the ninety-nine in the wilderness, and go after the one which is lost until he finds it? (Luke 15:4)

For this is good and acceptable in the sight of God our Savior, who desires all men to be saved and to come to the knowledge of the truth. (1 Timothy 2:3-4)

As you go, make disciples! (Matthew 28:19)

Disciplemaking Strategy: Reaching Men Who Need Christ: These are men who are not believers and know they are not. Many do not go to church or just come on special occasions. 

Build relationships with these men by encouraging their participation in non-threatening events, events with little or no-spiritual content. It is about building relationships. These events can be nothing more than a men’s dinner, a sporting event (spectating or participation), or workshops or seminars on finance, hunting, fishing or car repair.(No Man Left Behind, p130, 209)

Part 3

Discipleship: “... Whoever comes to Me, and hears My sayings and does them, I will show you whom he is like: He is like a man building a house, who dug deep and laid the foundation on the rock. And when the flood arose, the stream beat vehemently against that house, and could not shake it, for it was  founded on the rock …” (Luke 6:47-48)

Our role in ministry is to help men lay a solid foundation. Jesus parable warns that without that foundation, a man can be swept away by the world.

Disciplemaking Strategy: Reaching Men Who are Cultural Christians: These men are: (1) on the fringes. They may attend church regularly but that is the extent of his involvement. They are under the influence the culture, not the Word. (2) Those that may put their involvement in the church ahead of their relationship with the Lord. They are very involved but keep others at arm’s length. 33% of American men fall into one of these two categories.

A man was caught in a difficult situation. He was not engaged with the men of the church and turned to men who gave him worldly advice. He acted on that advice and may possibly face prison time. He did not have a solid foundation and was swept away by emotions and poor advice.

Reach these men through building a one-to-one relationship. Invite a man to coffee or breakfast or lunch. Find a common interest to engage the man. Encourage these men to attend a men’s workshop or seminar dealing with a topic of interest such as finance, marriage, and family enrichment, etc. (No Man Left Behind, p131, 209)

Part 4

Discipleship:  You therefore, my son, be strong in the grace that is in Christ Jesus. And the things that you have heard from me among many witnesses, commit these to faithful men who will be able to teach others also. (2 Timothy 2:1-2)

Disciplemaking Strategy: Encouraging Biblical Christians: Biblical Christians are men who are eager to develop their faith. Many are engaged in ministry. Others may be waiting for someone to show them what to do. Three things that appeal to these men: learning, service and leading. These men are believers. 5.5% of American men fall into this category. 

Minister to these men through small groups, Sunday school classes, men’s retreats, mission trips and men’s seminars. (No Man Left Behind, p132, 209)

Part 5 

 Discipleship: I thank God, whom I serve with a pure conscience, as my forefathers did, as without ceasing I remember you in my prayers night and day, greatly desiring to see you, being mindful of your tears, that I may be filled with joy, when I call to remembrance the genuine faith that is in you, which dwelt first in your grandmother Lois and your mother Eunice, and I am persuaded is in you also. Therefore I remind you to stir up the gift of God which is in you through the laying on of my hands. 7For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.(2 Timothy 1:3-7)

 Disciplemaking Strategy: Supporting Men Who are Leaders: Men who take responsibility in getting things done and influence others to join the effort. A leader is concerned about reaching and discipling other men. Less than one percent of American men fit into this category. 

 Support leaders through leadership training conferences and accountability relationships. These men consistently need encouragement and reminders of their motivation to minister and serve. (No Man Left Behind, p133, 209)

 Part 6

Discipleship:  Brethren, if a man is overtaken in any trespass, you who are spiritual restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness, considering yourself lest you also be tempted. 2Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ. (Galatians 6:1-2)

In the church today we broaden the application of this passage – bearing burdens. We are to encourage, come along side in prayer and support, or exhortation (encouragement with a warning).

Disciplemaking Strategy: Hurting Men: These are men who are experiencing difficulties in their lives: marriage, financial, a wayward child, alcohol, pornography, job, personal or family health issues, etc. The issues our men face can be brought on by inappropriate behavior or bad decisions or because they are actively engaged in advancing Christ’s kingdom – attacks by Satan. Hurting men will fall into one of the four other categories of men in your church that we have address the past several months.

Many resources are available to deal with these issues such as recovery groups, financial counseling, marriage and parental guidance and addiction groups or counseling. (No Man Left Behind, p133, 209)

In Conclusion


And He said to them, “Go into all the world and preach the gospel to every creature. He who believes and is baptized will be saved; but he who does not believe will be condemned (Mark 16:15).

Over the past five months we have addressed the five types of men in our churches. It is important to have a plan for ministering to each type. 

Disciplemaking Strategy

  • Bring men to salvation by building relationships through non-threatening evens such as sporting activities, hunting, fishing, etc.
  • Engage the comfortable through events such as seminars, workshops, church picnics, workdays, etc. These are events that include spiritual content.
  • Disciple men through small groups, Bibles studies, short-terms missions, men’s retreats, etc.
  • Disciple leaders through leadership conferences such as Man-in-the mirror workshops, the annual National Coalition of Ministries to Men conference, etc. 
  • Minister to the hurting through recovery groups, financial seminars, marriage and parenting counseling, etc.
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